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Friday, February 02, 2007

Doctor, Doctor

I think I've mentioned on here that I switched pediatricians. I never had a problem with their previous doctor, I just found a better one. I didn't know how much of a better one until our first appointment on the 1st.

This doctor has a son that is autistic and holds behavioral clinics for the kids he sees that fall on the spectrum. This first appointment was Caleb's 4 yr. old physical. He's the picture of health. His herniated belly button is fully closed, he's 47 lbs. (oh my!) and 43 inches.

We talked a lot about Caleb's behavioral issues (still a major deal--but I think I'm starting to get a better handle on things) and how preschool has helped him develop some really great communication skills (he can form some basic sentences on his own now and is really good at letting us know what he wants). I'm still concerned with how he acts with just me. The doctor suggested that I'm going to have to get my house super organized with a good schedule and a strategy for handling changes in that schedule (which are inevitable).

This is the part where he makes me cry. He looked right at me and said, "I hope you don't take this the wrong way, but you need therapy.". I teared up and told him he was right. I do. It was like a huge relief for him to say that. It kind of validated what I've been thinking and gave me some extra support when I asked Carl if it was okay if I found a therapist. I have an appointment with my own doctor in a week and I'll ask for a referral then. I'm sure after my week of single parenting next week I'll be totally ready. I'd like a massage, too, but I have a feeling I'm not going to get one of those unless I win Total Body Makeover (starts MONDAY!).

I wrote this post with the intent of using it on Saturday but both of the kids are asleep (OH HAPPY DAY!) so I figure I can put it up now and if I don't get around to posting tomorrw, it'll be okay.


  1. Good for you! I hope you get a great therapist. There's nothing like it!

  2. Anonymous3:55 PM

    You are a wonderful person and mom. A therapist may help you become a bit more assertive so that you can talk to hubby about things rather than asking him for permission.

  3. Why can't all these anonymous commenters just sign their name? What's the deal? You must not know me personally if you think I need help to be more assertive. I ask my husband if it is okay because that would be a major expense for us and we talk about these things.

  4. Yes, I don't like the anonymous ones too. I'm glad that you are going to be able to see some one to help you through the challenges of life. Plus, it's talking to an adult instead of kids. How wonderful is that?!

  5. awesome! we're switching dr's too! anyways that's great you're going to be able to see a therapist!
    LOL that anonymous person must not be married with kids on a budget... sigh.. and it's not like you're asking asking, it's different when you discuss major expenses with your DH. but i know i use "ask" when we are trying to figure out if we can do something expensive. am i making sense? probably not. oh well.

  6. Christy,
    Sometimes I feel like I would like a therapist :). . . you are a good mom and Caleb and Eva are lucky to have you. I agree with Heather--it's nice to talk to an adult, and especially someone who will probably view the situation objectively and who is only there to help.

  7. That Dr. sounds perfect for you guys!

    My sister (actually 2 of them) went to a therapist for a little while and they both agreed that it's something EVERYONE should do. It helps to have another person validate what your going through other then your family/friends. Did that same Dr. have any suggestions of someone that would understand the autism spectrum side of things??

  8. Oops! NOT Matthew. . .it's me.

  9. I didn't ask him for any suggestions. I belong to the Autism Family Network support group and I'm going to ask some of them.

  10. Wow, what a great doctor. He sounds perfect!

    On the therapy thing. I would say everyone needs therapy and the ones that say they don't need it, need it even more. You learn some really great skills for life in it. When Ryan was at BYU he was an intern at a clinic and they said that I could come too. It was a group therapy setting, on communication. I totally love it and I think it was a great way for us to start our marriage. I wanted to do more when we were in Lincoln (at the school), but since I was Ryan's wife They wouldn't see me. So, when he is finally out of school I think I might get back into it. Good Stuff:)

    ....asking him permission? I don't think they know you...hehehe