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Friday, December 17, 2004

Adoption Woes

The Crafty Conservative

I think I've mentioned before that my husband and I are adoptive parents. The adoption process can be long and drawn out. Invasive. Uncomfortable. But, you know what? Can't the same thing be said for actual labor?

What I'm most upset about is the fact that many adoptive parents (and I'm sure birthparents as well) get taken advantage of. As soon as President Bush raised the adoption tax credit, the agencies raised their fees. The reason? "Oh, you'll get that back from the government". Maybe. Someday. My husband is on a fellowship at Purdue and makes enough money with that where we can live a comfortable life and take care of ourselves and a small family. I also work part-time as a Spanish teacher. We don't have $15K lying around to pay to some agency. It's frustrating. So, we end up cutting some corners by doing things ourselves. It helps that my husband and I are aren't looking for a "mini-me". In fact, I'm not looking to adopt white kids at all. There are plenty of people fighting and paying big bucks to adopt them. We want to adopt a child (or children) that may be considered hard to place. This, unfortunately, is mainly due to race. There are plenty of African-american families that adopt AA children. There just aren't enough. So, my husband and I are white. Our son is black. We are in the process of looking for our next child. I hope he or she shows up soon!

1 comment:

  1. Anonymous11:45 PM

    I am so happy to hear you say that. I marvel at the number of people who go overseas to adopt because "There aren't any young children available in the States". What they really mean is that there aren't any white children available in the States. We plan to adopt African America children as well as have our own African America children :-). We have plenty of love to give to one big happy family!

    Samantha (from Lafayette SnB)

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